You Found Your Soulmate, Now What?

What Happens AFTER you Find your Soul mate?
What's your perception of life with your perfect soul mate?
Joy, bliss, happiness--a life with no conflict and no major issues to work through? Ward and June or Ozzy and Harriet with passion?...in other words....bliss and easy street???

In my opinion, (of the unknown author of this internet article, red.) that just isn't the way it works. In a soul mate relationship, you are best friends--you have passion--you have joy--you are totally comfortable with each other and enjoy being together. Even with all this, you will still have issues that challenge you and that "rock the boat." Sometimes they can even tear you apart and break the relationship.

I also believe that you can find several "soul mates" in your lifetime.
Dr. Wayne Dyer says that your soul mate is the person who you can't stand but are in your life to teach you a powerful lesson.
for more detailed information on this topic, see Dr. Wayne Dyer´s ´Manifesting your Destiny´ program and others, on http://www.drwaynedyer.com/home/index.cfm
- That´s great news, Wayne! but what if, you just can´t sue that lovely fanny?

Carolyn Myss says in "Spiritual Madness" that we are here to heal the parts of ourselves that don't know God yet. I believe that Soul mates help us to heal those parts if we are willing to do the work and look at ourselves openly and honestly. Soul mates can trigger certain reactions in you that point the direction to what needs to be healed.

I personally believe too that the hardest lesson we need to learn aside from patience...is forgiveness. I can be very hard to forgive anyone of whom you feel has ruined your life, hurt you either physically, emotionally or mentally or who has done you some kind of wrong. Sometimes THAT is the whole reason and lesson behind the relationship. Unfortunately it is NOT always about 'true love' and 'happily ever after' and those types of relationships we tend to view as horrid and NOT of a 'soul mate' nature. Only deep soul searching and much hindsight can tell you for sure.

So what happens after you find your soul mate?

Remember the Zen proverb that poses the question of--What happens before enlightenment? Chop wood, carry water. What happens after enlightenment? Chop wood, carry water. I feel this is a good analogy of what happens in relationships. You still must face your personal challenges regardless, but.... if you're conscious and awake, you can realize that you have a powerful ally in your 'soul mate' to walk beside you on your path to enlightenment.

Many of us are finding that perfect "soul mate" and many are searching for one.
I suggest that you look at all the people in your life that you love or have any kind of a 'connection' with--the ones who challenge you, the ones who love you.
Say of prayer of gratitude for these "teachers." When someone close to you "presses your buttons," look at what you can learn from the situation. What parts of yourself need to be healed? What feelings come up for you?..yes they may very well still be a 'soul mate' albeit one you may not have dreamed as the 'perfect' one.

Marriane Williamson has said that every thing we do is either an act of love or a cry for help. That's what a soul mate does for you--they are there to love you AND to help you when you cry for help. They also have the ability to "press your buttons" and this is for your highest good...soooo..if you think that it is all 'wine and roses', you need to do some more research and reading on what the REAL purpose of a 'soul mate' is.

Marek Dariusz says on his Blog that besides the obove posted opions of some authors,
Don´t take it too seriously! (also a quote from his fellow country man Chopin)
Life, yourself, and any other phenomenon in the Maya of the fourth dimension,
As Deepak Chopra, has summened:
´It is a recreational universe!`
Meanin two fold, the self curving within itself and reconstructing itself,
and, not last but certaintly not least, recreational, in the funlovin´ recreational sense of the wor(l)d,
and as for the relational aspect, in the eyes of the divine, we all are kids, as the Walt Disney quote says, from a distance... (wich movie, kids?)
like the...
Why do angels fly?
´cause they take themselfs lightly!
Sometimes, it´s being friends, sometimes it´s being lovers, sometimes being each others parents, and sometimes...SHE BUGS THE LIVIN´STARLIGHTS OUT OF ME!!!
what´s a guy to do? Sue? Spammm? Stalk? Start a Blog? See the Red Bull air race? meditate? Spamm her parents mail box? the Law proffesor? her fraternity? the faculty?
her friends? Been there, done that!
Man! women... can sombody, please, spamm me a instruction manual! ;)
I´m gonna spamm...John Gray ´bout this, and otherwise Barbara DiAngelis...
Just wait till I get some more e-mail adresess...
Good thang Spamming isn´t a offence description, and there a good thang called freedom of Spamm, eeuh speech I mean, in spoken and written words...

And, closing, the Polish way, (no, not drunk, with a song!)
MAROON 5 - "This Love"

I was so high I did not recognize
The fire burning in her eyes
The chaos that controlled my mind
Whispered goodbye and she got on a plane
Never to return again
But always in my heart

This love has taken its toll on me
She said Goodbye too many times before
And her heart is breaking in front of me
I have no choice cause I won't say goodbye anymore

I tried my best to feed her appetite
Keep her coming every night
So hard to keep her satisfied
Kept playing love like it was just a game
Pretending to feel the same
Then turn around and leave again

This love has taken its toll on me
She said Goodbye too many times before
And her heart is breaking in front of me
I have no choice cause I won't say goodbye anymore

I'll fix these broken things
Repair your broken wings
And make sure everything's alright
My pressure on your hips
Sinking my fingertips
Into every inch of you
Cause I know that's what you want me to do

This love has taken its toll on me
She said Goodbye too many times before
And her heart is breaking in front of me
I have no choice cause I won't say goodbye anymore

This love has taken its toll on me
She said Goodbye too many times before
And my heart is breaking in front of me
She said Goodbye too many times before

This love has taken its toll on me
She said Goodbye too many times before
And her heart is breaking in front of me
I have no choice cause I won't say goodbye anymore...


To:
John Gray
http://www.marsvenus.com/

From:
Peter Pan

Dear Dr. Gray,

As a big fan of yours, I have read all your books, great!
Love ´em!
The thing is, I haven´t much experience in the field of relationships,
nor with woman in general or particular, but as a good student of Law and life,
Good things happen to those who are prepared! right?

anyhow,
my question to you is,
I have been doing a lot of (literature) reseach here,
In the Gym where I train, just after I get out of the sauna,
reading all the most, euh, highly considered, Ladies magazines here in
the Netherlands (not Neverland, don´t get me wrong!)
(that´s a whole other fairytale...!)
Libelle, Margriet, Viva, Story and so on,

What I don´t get is, the ´billekoek´ aspect of a relationship,
I think you americans call it ´spank´,
but not only without clothes, I mean,
Been reading, and reading, and reading, all these stories, from Ladies,
and letters, telling how much they like it,
No!, nehee!, I said: noooo...hhhmmmm...mmhuuhmmm...ooohh...YES!!...darlin´..
(know what I mean?)
The thing is, there is a very special lady in my life, and I have been spankin´
eeuh spammin´ I mean, een hartelust, but no, absolutly no resusult!
I think I´ve spammend everybody we know, and still nothing!
In all those stories I´ve read, there´s always a happy ending,
and here? nada, nope, nix niet!

Do you get it?
Could you please spamm me some advise? Been reading some
Dr. Dyer, Yep, she bugs the starlights out of me! Check! soulmate?
Dr. Chopra, Law of least effort and so, but ...(I could sue..?)
And as from the Ladies magazines, she should be ecstatic of joy by my spammin´!
Could you please write on this topic maybe in your 14th book?
Would make me very happy,

In any case, I´d love to hear what you think,

Awaiting your answer,
Yours Truly,
With Passion!
Peter Pan